I think one of the first places I went to was WebMD and look up Rheumatoid Arthritis to understand if any of the symptoms made sense with my previous diagnosis of RA years before.Another site that helped me immensely was Healthcentral Rheumatoid Arthritis page and that led me to another blogger and writer Lene Andersen.Her blog the The Seated View talks about her life and RA.She has written a book since there that is a must guide for people with RA, the book is called "Your life with Rheumatoid Arthritis".
Other bloggers and activists that I highly recommend looking up is RA Guy, Kelly Young "RA Warrior",RA Chicks, and the Arthritis Foundation. There are many support groups on Facebook,some are closed meaning only members can see posts and some are open where anyone can read the posts.
The most important thing is for you to arm yourself with information about this disease,have the best attitude possible at the time all the scary info is inundating your brain and go and hunt hmm I mean find a good Rheumatologist. Remember the doctors work for you and they get paid.If you do not feel like you are getting all the attention you deserve as a patient KEEP LOOKING!! It is so important to surround yourself with a good team of doctors that will listen to you and respect your input and questions that you will have. I have a team now that is involved in my care of a General Practitioner (GP), Rheumatologist, Orthopedic Dr, Podiatrist, Pulmonologist, and hopefully soon a Pain Specialist. I know it sounds like a lot of people to keep track of but RA is more than joints,it affects the whole body and while you are at it find a good Psychologist or Counselor if possible as well.
Lastly but not least educate your family and take them with you to your doctor appointments.A lot of information and big words are thrown around and we definitely need a note taker at times.I always write down the questions and concerns I have before making it to the doctor's office.I forget a lot of things and better safe than sorry.
It is so helpful to find a few people you can talk to about what you are going through and understand you. I have a circle of friends from around the world that I can talk to,text,email or whatever when I feel like a pity party is about to happen, I can also ask if any symptoms I might be having are normal or need attention right away.
Sheesh I think I gave you lots of ideas and info to start your journey. Remember pain is a valid feeling and symptom. No you are not a hypochondriac.Yes you deserve answers. No you are not alone,others have walked in your shoes per say and have helped others like you and me.